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More Updates,annoying comments, and angry mother-in-laws
So we did the IUI last week, now we're just waiting... I don't have much hope for it though.
Yesterday, someone in my building was talking to me about the shuls in the community and then asked me straight out, "When are you planning on having kids?" How do you answer that question??? I didn't know what to say and just said "whenever". Anyone have any good answers to that? Guess I could have said "None of your business", but I'm really trying to be nice to people and make friends. :-( But maybe it's okay to be rude to stupid people?
On Thursday night my Mother-in-law called my DH and said she was very angry at me since I don't initiate hugs with her. He mentioned that I'm not a huggy person in general and that I do hug back when she hugs me. She said that even when I hug back I flinch and isn't he worried about being married to a person that's so cold? Then she said, "What will you do when you have kids and she doesn't hug them either?" DH said, "IF we have kids, of course she'll hug them. If I was worried about that, I wouldn't be married to her." I thought her whole question was very strange -- I never heard about a correlation between how much you hug your mother-in-law and how much one hugs her children. Hugging one's children is instinct. I don't think there's a hugging mother-in-law instinct. I also thought given that she knows how hard it is for us to have children in the first place, it was even more inappropriate because of that.
Yesterday, someone in my building was talking to me about the shuls in the community and then asked me straight out, "When are you planning on having kids?" How do you answer that question??? I didn't know what to say and just said "whenever". Anyone have any good answers to that? Guess I could have said "None of your business", but I'm really trying to be nice to people and make friends. :-( But maybe it's okay to be rude to stupid people?
On Thursday night my Mother-in-law called my DH and said she was very angry at me since I don't initiate hugs with her. He mentioned that I'm not a huggy person in general and that I do hug back when she hugs me. She said that even when I hug back I flinch and isn't he worried about being married to a person that's so cold? Then she said, "What will you do when you have kids and she doesn't hug them either?" DH said, "IF we have kids, of course she'll hug them. If I was worried about that, I wouldn't be married to her." I thought her whole question was very strange -- I never heard about a correlation between how much you hug your mother-in-law and how much one hugs her children. Hugging one's children is instinct. I don't think there's a hugging mother-in-law instinct. I also thought given that she knows how hard it is for us to have children in the first place, it was even more inappropriate because of that.
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